For high achievers following a path of personal development, the underlying assumption baked into almost every goal, intention, and resolution is that we need to improve something.
Whether that “something” is our body, our balance sheet, our mindset, our skills, or anything else, the presumption that we need to improve implies that we’re not ok as we are.
We’re flawed. There’s something wrong with us. We have a broken piece.
In some way or another, we’re not enough.
That belief that we’re not enough often lies at the core of our being.
No matter how much inner work I do, how much strengthening of the belief that I’m worthy as I am, I often find that not enoughness trickling in.
I see it in my clients as well. And often, the more successful someone is on the outside the stronger the not-enoughness on the inside.
Aspiring to improve can be healthy. But if we do it from a place of not enough then we are merely reacting. The problem with this is that no accomplishment will ever be enough. The weight of insecurity will continue to drag us down, we’ll live in fear of being revealed as a fraud, and we will continue to overwork or find other means to fill the hole of emptiness.
If we plan from a place of wholeness, however, then we’re not looking for achievements to fill us. We can better-focus on being generous and acting in service.
How would your desires and goals change if nothing was deficient or broken, if you believed you were already whole?
What if you didn’t need to improve?
Please share in the comments; I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.