How many times do you stifle parts of yourself to fit in better with the group?
I often hear from clients and friends their concerns that their kids won’t “fit in.” It represents a certain type of conditioning — a belief that to be different from the norm is a path to be outcast and isolated.
This was part of my upbringing. I still have moments when I fall into fear that bringing all parts of myself to any particular venue will set me up for rejection.
I hear echoes of voices telling me that “nobody will take you seriously if you talk about X or reveal Y about yourself.”
Yet a broader perspective reveals that this isn’t an absolute Truth.
Many people are comfortable with being fully themselves in any situation. They don’t care if they come across quirky. They don’t worry about being accepted or “fitting in.” They don’t even want to be seen as “normal.”
They don’t try to “look the part” or “act the part.” And I don’t see them paying any consequences of it. To the contrary: they find their tribe, they attract their ideal clients, and they seem more at peace.
No anxiety about having to script yourself in any given situation.
One thing is clear: this approach requires a lot less expenditure of energy. How refreshing to just show up as you are, to not try to be a certain way just because you think it is what others expect.
It’s something I admire and aspire to.
How liberating would it be to claim your quirks and be all of who you are in any setting? To bring all of yourself to any situation, role, career?
The start of May gives an energy boost to help you claim all your parts.
On April 30, Venus moved back into Aries. Venus in Aries said to be in exile; she is far from her home sign of Libra. But exile isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Venus in Aries is fierce and independent. In the trailblazing and independent environment of Aries, Venus is not necessarily trying to forge bonds and create harmony. She liberated to follow her instincts, to create a ruckus, and fight for what she believes in.
On May 1, Uranus in Taurus forms a sextile to the North Node in Pisces. Uranus is a revolutionary; the North Node represents what we hunger for and where we’re going in life.
Taurus is a place where we embody our values; Pisces is a place of boundless dreams.
This alignment encourages us to embrace our quirks, contradictions, and renegade spirit, and to choose the offbeat path.
It invites us to trust us that when we embrace all of who we are, and when we detach from the traditions and conditioning that limit our growth, we will find our people and our purpose — and perhaps discover that we’re not as weird as we fear we are.
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