Problem-solving is an important skill.
And… equally important is the skill of identifying when something is a problem that needs to be solved.
The belief that we add value by solving the problem or giving the answer or fixing what is wrong can lead to unnecessary interference with a natural process.
If I’m focused on what needs to be fixed, I cannot see what is here that is already good.
When I approach with a mindset that nobody needs to be fixed, that all is well, I am open to seeing the existing beauty and hearing the truth of a situation.
There may be a problem that needs attention, but maybe it’s not the surface issue presented. Most often, it’s not.
And, there may be nothing that needs to be fixed.
Often we add the most value to a situation or to another person by witnessing and holding space for their experience, without trying to fix anything.
It’s also an approach we can take with ourselves.
Just because you’re struggling with something doesn’t mean there’s something wrong.
What would change if you believed that you aren’t broken, and that others around you also aren’t broken?
What if you trusted that every situation was exactly as it needs to be?
To operate in this manner requires faith that the wisdom of a situation is already there and will emerge in its own time. And it requires humility to suppress our expertise in order to allow what is there to surface.
Everything in nature has its own timing.
We don’t try to fix a tree when some of its buds don’t bloom as fast as others. We hold space for the tree to have its process.
Not every issue in life is a problem. And not every problem needs to be solved.