At the root of all issues is the concept of enoughness. We live in scarcity mindsets. Never enough time, money, attention, bandwidth, or other resources.
Love is the one resource that will never run out. Like fire, we can divide it and share it without depleting the original source. Both love and fire are connected to the heart. The heart pumps blood throughout the body. It doesn’t get worn out by this activity; that’s it’s function: take it in and pump it out.
But the heart pumps blood to itself first, before spreading it around.
When you truly love what you do and are driven by love for the people you serve — a true love that comes from wholeness, rather than a fear-based love that you’ll suffer a consequence or loss if you don’t serve — you don’t need more time or attention or energy. When you come to the world already filled with love, everything else happens with more ease.
But you have to give that love to yourself first. Otherwise, the love you give out to others will be desperate love; it will be love with an agenda to get something back.
When you serve others as a way to earn their love or attention (because we often falsely equate attention with love), you put their needs above yours. This will lead to resentment and disappointment when they don’t return your love in the way you desire.
But when you cultivate self-love first, then you know you are loved no matter what happens. Instead of serving as a way to fill yourself up, you can serve from a place of wholeness and fullness. You have more to give and what you give has greater value, because it is given freely. It is pure, not watered down with other objectives and hidden agendas.
When you cultivate a deep well of self-love you will feel confident in the sufficiency of your resources, because your self-love is something that nobody else can ever take away from you.