The Secret to Creating Moments of Synchronicity

For years, I listened to people talk about synchronicities. They would say things like “just put your desires into the universe and watch as things unfold for you.”

I had no idea what they meant. How do I create synchronicities? When I tried it, it didn’t seem to work.

Eventually, I began to experience these synchronicities that I had heard about: moments when everything seemed to line up, when it felt like the universe was conspiring in my favor and when work happened with ease.

In reviewing some of my past journal entries, I found some clues to what creates those moments.

I noticed that many of my synchronicities came when I was on vacation or working remotely, and away from my normal routine.

Living in My Head

At home, I was often in my head, trying to “figure things out.” Thinking. Planning.

There is always so much to do, never enough time.

Everyone is in a rush, always “busy.” Nobody “has time.” To connect with someone means getting on their schedule or getting them on yours.

We limit the duration of our interactions so they don’t take too much time away from the “important” work that needs to “get done.”

I was conditioned to believe that strangers who try to engage me in conversation must have an agenda or want something from me. I learned to protect myself by closing off to those advances.

I was also conditioned to believe that as a well-educated, high-achieving woman I’m capable of everything without needing help — certainly not from a man. I’m independent. I can do it all.

Living In My Heart

Out of my habitual context, I was more open to conversation, without thinking about “where is this going?” or “what is this person’s agenda?” or “what does this person want from me?”

I was more willing to engage in conversations with strangers because I wasn’t blinded by my rush to “get where I am going.” I remained open to speaking with someone just because.

Somehow there seemed to be more time: to meet for coffee, take a long walk, or just slow down.

There was spaciousness, which allowed for openness, and for living from my heart. From this space I was able to cultivate presence and see the synchronicities that were playing out in front of me.

This was the big breakthrough moment for me:

We don’t need to create synchronicities, because they are always happening. To see them, we must be present.