For the past 12 years as a real estate broker and transition coach, I’ve worked with clients through their biggest decisions, investments, and life changes.
Everyone wants to know what the future holds. They want to know that if they invest X today, they’ll get Y in a few years. If they make this move, they will be happier.
Most people don’t like risk — or what they view as “big” risk. They get stuck in making decisions because they are trying to navigate around risk or manage risk.
You Cannot Avoid Risk
Unfortunately, there’s no avoiding risk. Life has no guarantees.
Everything entails risk.
Walking down the street. Sending your kids to school. Walking into a Walmart. Driving your car. Riding a bike. Riding on the subway.
If you’re starting to think you might be safer at home, think again. Plenty of risk there too. Home accidents. Stray bullets. Not to mention all that sitting around at home, which isn’t good for your heart.
How do you handle these other risks in your life?
Generally, in one of three ways, either explicitly or implicitly:
(1) Ignore the risk.
Pretend it’s not real. Don’t think about it. Most people riding the subway or walking into public spaces are not thinking about how vulnerable these spaces are to attack. When you send your kids to school you try not to think about school shootings, or you assume they won’t happen in your kids’ school. We often ignore the risks.
(2) Accept the consequences.
Implicitly or explicitly, you accept the consequences the moment you start walking down the street, step into a store, smoke a cigarette, vape, etc.
Trust that things will work out for your highest good. Even when it looks like things didn’t break your way, or where the resutls don’t seem to make sense, you trust that there’s a bigger picture that you can’t see.