What is the obstacle you’re facing right now, the thing sitting between you and what you desire to create?
What impedes your ability to connect?
What gets in the way of your ability to open to love?
For most of us, the list may start with external obstacles:
The pandemic. Rules. Technology. Circumstances. Other people.
The list can be endless. If we allow it.
And maybe, in moments of self-honesty, we are willing to see that the real obstacles are internal: our emotional habits or states of being, the patterns we bring to our relationships:
Anger. Frustration. Trying to control. Illness. Fatigue. Cynicism. Skepticism. Judgments. Assumptions.
These are the armor we wear to protect ourselves from pain of getting hurt.
If we strip those back, we may find what lies beneath: Fear. Grief. A deeply embedded feeling unsafe.
And beneath (or alongside) that: feelings of unworthiness.
The truth is that we are already connected. We are born with everything we need. We are already channels for all we want to bring to life. We have love. We are love.
It’s easy to forget this in a culture that conditions us to believe the opposite. It’s easy to fall into the misguided belief that we can protect ourselves from the influence of culture and simply rise above it. It is in the air we breathe, the water we drink.
The work in peeling back the layers, in shedding the lenses that distort our view, is a daily practice in remembering our wholeness. It takes constant vigilance in remembering, in bringing ourselves back to wholeness.
When we do the work to heal within on an individual level, we also do this work for the collective. Because when we feel safe to open we can create spaces free of judgement that creates safety for others to open.
Ultimately we all want the same thing: to love and be loved. To create a better world for all.
Focusing on the external won’t get us there. We must be willing to get to the root of what gets in the way. To heal from within so we can heal what’s around us.
What gets in the way of your ability to connect, to create art, beauty, or culture?