Real life is not linear; it’s cyclical and spherical. Everything is constantly in motion, rotating and spinning.
The best way to avoid getting dizzy from all the spinning is to find your center: the point of stillness around which all things revolve.
Simple, but not always easy.
We all have moments when we get pulled off our center, when we become uprooted and ungrounded, flailing in the wind. In those moments, we default to reaction mode instead of to thoughtful and nuanced responses. We give away our center, we allow others to direct our thinking.
Sometimes we don’t even realize this is happening.
What are the situations that pull you off your center? Where do you tend to default to reaction instead of response?
Often what precipitates our reaction is feeling the expectation to show up a certain way or play a particular role, a feeling of being judged, or a small comment that sounds like critique or criticism.
These triggers can spark our defenses, cause us to shape-shift, to try to be different things to different people, to change our minds because of something that someone said that planted a seed of doubt, or to violate our boundaries.
This is how we get pulled off center.
The Secret of Staying Open and Centered
Presumably you have experienced the presence of people who capture the room from the moment they enter.
These people who convey a deep sense of self-confidence, a sense of equanimity, kindness and compassion.
They carry an energy of nobility.
What lies beneath this? What do they have that holds them to their center?
Is it just an accumulation of knowledge and experience?
Sometimes, but not always.
A person with this energy carries it into situations even when they are a novice. In fact, the qualities they posses embolden their curiosity and their willingness to fail and make mistakes.
What they have is that they know who they are and they are not trying to be anything else. They are not trying to prove themselves or their worth to anyone.
As a result, they are able to show up open and undefended. This is what magnetizes everyone else to them.
The quality we admire in them is integrity. They have integrated all parts of themselves.
Integration grows from a deeply-rooted seed self-acceptance.
The more accepting you are of all of your parts, the more you can integrate them and bring all of yourself to what you do. And the more whole and complete you show up, the better you can hold your ground while still remaining open.
This is Sovereignty
When you know who you are, you can root in your truth and you’re less likely to be swayed by others’ opinions or comments.
This gives you power. Not power over anyone else, but of yourself. It’s the power of agency, the ability to choose how to respond to what life delivers .
This is sovereignty.
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