Sometimes, in an effort to maintain harmony in a relationship, we consciously or subconsciously subvert our own needs.
Maybe you overlook a slight. You brush it off when a friend reschedules plans for the third time. When your business partner undercuts you, you turn a deaf ear. You cancel your plans when a client or friend needs you, thinking you’re doing the right thing.
Of course, not every transgression needs to be addressed. But when this happens repeatedly, and we keep looking the other way, resentment builds. Eventually, it boils over at the worst times.
Peace built on shaky ground isn’t real peace. What is suppressed will eventually come to the surface.
Today’s Full Moon in Aries invites us to be bold and courageous in expressing our needs and desires, especially in our relationships.
Full Moon in Aries: The Relationship Axis
A Full Moon occurs when the Moon in one sign is opposite the Sun in another. This full moon — with the moon in Aries and the Sun in Libra — highlights the relationship axis and the tension between Aries’ assertiveness and Libra’s desire for peace, harmony, and balance.
Aries is all about independence, authenticity, and action. When the Moon is in Aries, emotions can feel raw and urgent. There’s a strong impulse to act, to express how we feel without hesitation.
Libra, on the other hand, seeks fairness and balance. Libra wants to maintain harmony in relationships, often leading us to suppress our needs to keep things smooth.
Chiron: The Wound of Subverting Our Needs
This Full Moon is sitting next to Chiron, a minor planet that is the archetype of the Wounded Healer.
Chiron represents the deepest wounds we carry, and here, it illuminates the wound of subverting our own needs.
When we suppress our needs in relationships to avoid conflict, we think we’re we’re maintaining harmony and peace. But we’re not. It’s not fair to us, to our partner, or to the relationship as a whole.
Suppressing our needs creates resentment—toward the other person, others outside the relationship, and ourselves for allowing it to happen.
The more resentment builds, the more anger we feel. Eventually, it erupts at the worst moments, potentially sabotaging the relationship.
A peace created by hiding our needs isn’t real peace. It’s fragile, and it relies on keeping everything buried. But what’s buried will always run the show.
Chiron teaches us to hold space for our wounds. When we are willing to sit with our pain and look at it, we lessen its power to control our actions and we open ourselves to healing. Facing our wounds is how we move from pain to wisdom.
The Courage to Express Our Needs
True harmony in relationships doesn’t come from avoiding conflict. It comes from courageously bringing our needs into the open, so we can create balance that honors both ourselves and our partner.
This Full Moon in Aries asks us to honor our truth and to be bold in expressing our needs, even when it feels uncomfortable.
By acknowledging and expressing our needs, we open the door to authentic connection and lasting peace — within ourselves and with others.
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