Do you find it difficult to make decisions?
Perhaps you weigh pros and cons trying to find a balance point on the scale.
Maybe you analyze the data points to find some direction from them.
Or maybe you weigh risks and consequences in the hope that the answer will reveal itself.
We’re in Libra season, and these methods are all typical of the Libra archetype.
Libra is an air sign symbolized by scales.
As an air sign, it’s prone to analysis.
Its rulership by Venus gives it an association with harmony and beauty.
Libra often associated with the pursuit of balance, harmony, and equity. Libra wants to do what is just.
Libra is also a sign associated with indecision.
Libra’s indecision is tied to its careful weighing of options.
Here are 3 reasons why this approach to decision making keeps you locked in indecision.
(1) The Binary Fallacy
Whenever we are weighing only two options we are caught in binary thinking. Binary thinking sees a situation as having only two options — this or that.
Binary thinking typically implies a value judgment.
Good vs bad.
Right vs wrong.
Honorable vs shameful.
The scales only allow weighing one thing against another, but reality is that most decisions in life are far more nuanced.
Life is not black and white. It’s shades of grey.
Reality is more like the yin/yang symbol, in which yin contains some yang and yang contains some yin.
When you’re stuck in indecision between two options, you’re in a dilemma.
To get out of indecision paralysis find a third option that takes you out of the binary construct.
(2) The Invisible Weight
Even the most careful measuring and weighing of factors fails to consider the invisible weight on the scale: emotions.
Whether you acknowledge it or not, emotions play a major role in decisions. They inevitably tip the scale to one side.
If we don’t acknowledge that weight, we try to find more rationalization for the other side of the scale. It won’t work.
Human beings are emotional actors first.
When we are indecisive it’s usually because we have a deeper emotion that is tipping the balance in a way that our minds don’t like. We get stuck in a battle of the head vs the heart.
In this situation it’s common for the mind to judge what the heart wants, which adds layers of shame to an already complicated dynamic.
To get out of indecision, it’s crucial to at least acknowledge the emotional weight that is tipping the balance on the scales.
(3) Decisions Inevitably Tip the Scale
Any decision inevitably tips the scale in favor of one side. It might lead to someone being disappointed — or even upset with you.
If your end-game is balance and harmony, and your goal is to make everyone happy, you’ll keep trying to find ways to even the scale, which leads to decision avoidance.
A decision cuts off other options — this is what it means to decide.
To get out of indecision paralysis you must first choose to accept the fact that you will upset the balance and you might create disharmony.
The big question is whether that unhappy person will be you.
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