It’s one of the most difficult truths to accept, and yet when we grasp it we can change our relationships with others and with ourselves.
Other people are our mirrors. What we see in someone else exists within us. Even if we aren’t aware of how it is within us.
I can only see what exists within me.
This means that the person I find annoying and antagonizing reflects a part of me who is the same.
And it means that the person that I find brave and bold also reflects back parts of me.
This concept makes many people uncomfortable. As a general rule, we invest a lot into escaping any opportunity to evaluate ourselves.
It’s easier to judge others than to reflect on how we show up.
When I find myself teetering on the edge of judgment of someone else, the first question I ask myself is
Where am I showing up in the same way?
When two friends are having an argument, I notice my desire to choose a side and ask myself:
What about this is a reflection of my experience?
Every thing that happens outside of us is also happening within us.
how do you see me
only through the lens of you
you see what you are
when I look at you
I see what lives within me
that I cannot see v because