I had always been taught that my failures were a source of shame, something to hide from others. But weightlifting is reframing failure for me, and teaching me to view it as something completely different.
We can release the toxic grip of shame by doing the opposite of what shame wants: stop hiding and expose the shame in a place of safety where it can be witnessed.
Shame turns behavior into identity. It thrives in darkness, lives off of secrecy, and stops us from moving forward. At any time we can shake it off by stepping into the light.
Returning home is about rebuilding the interpersonal bridge that gets broken as a result of shame.
Shame can cause a complete system shutdown. This is how to weaken its grip.
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