Years of masking ADHD can perpetuate a trauma on the system. Here’s how I’m finding greater acceptance after 20 years, and healing the deep wounds of the trauma.
How Astrological Literacy Freed Me From a Cycle of Shame and Blame
In the moment I was about to spiral down the drain of shame and blame over another failed goal, I was saved by an insight thanks to newfound literacy in astrology. Here’s how understanding my solar return chart saved me from a cycle of despair, and how it can help you.
The Link Between Self-Belief and Receiving Support
The idea that if you believe in yourself you don’t need support from others sets up a false dichotomy. In fact, part of self-belief is recognizing the support we need to succeed at a task.
Find Your Power in Owning Your Failures
Games are rarely won or lost as a result of a late-game call. Taking responsibility for our failures gives us agency and the power to make a different decision next time.
3 Ways “Before and After” Stories Harm Us
Before and after stories have a magnetic quality to them, reeling us in with the promise of transformation. But they can also harm us in significant ways.
Weightlifting is Teaching Me a New Perspective on Failure. Here’s What I’ve Learned.
I had always been taught that my failures were a source of shame, something to hide from others. But weightlifting is reframing failure for me, and teaching me to view it as something completely different.
How to Weaken Shame
We can release the toxic grip of shame by doing the opposite of what shame wants: stop hiding and expose the shame in a place of safety where it can be witnessed.