Absolute freedom — no rules at all — is anarchy. Typically what we want is the feeling that we can break the rules. That requires that we have rules in the first place.
Structure and freedom may feel like opposites, but one is necessary for the other. This is a pattern that repeats in every dimension of life. Structure creates freedom.
Are you a rebel at heart who yearns to break free of the status quo and cultural expectations, but still find yourself struggling to extract from pressure to do things the “right” way? Here is the permission you seek to make your own rules.
I’m sitting on a train, tensing in fear. So I’m digging it up and laying it out. Warning: this is raw and vulnerable.