One reason that many people fail to follow through on their “resolutions” or intentions is that they never reach a point of resolve. They don’t “resolve for real.”
When you resolve for real, you gain access to a superpower that cuts through distractions and obstacles. The things that once stood in your way suddenly evaporate. The mountains in front of you turn to flat roads. The entire landscape changes.
The Source of Resolve
How do you get to this place of resolve and harness this magical superpower?
One way to get there is by reaching a point at which you will no longer tolerate the status quo. The pain of what you’ve been doing or your current situation reaches a point where you are no longer willing to accept it.
You reach a threshold — I like to call it the Threshold of Tolerance.
The Threshold of Tolerance
The Threshold of Tolerance is that place where you finally have had enough. You refuse to tolerate your current situation or current behavior patterns for one more day, or even one more hour.
Many people never reach a point of resolve because they don’t allow themselves to get close enough to the Threshold of Tolerance. The Threshold of Tolerance is like a hot fire. It’s tempting to back off before you risk being burned.
The mind uses many tricks to help us avoid the heat before we feel the full impact of the flames.
The secret to generating the inner fire to resolve for real, and accessing the superpower of resolve, is to feel the intensity of the flames. You must step closer to the fire, to feel the pain of what it is you want to leave.
Moving Towards vs Moving Away
Some people suggest that it’s better to move toward something than to move away from something; that it’s better for us to focus on what we want to build rather than what we want to destroy.
It’s certainly great to focus on where we want to go. I don’t argue with the concept of positivity. But the idea that we could focus on moving toward something instead of on moving away from something is an illusion created by the “duality reality.”
This isn’t a binary system. To move toward something is to move away from something else. They happen at the same time; they are the same thing. All creation is destruction. All destruction is creation.
Also, I’m a practicalist. Biologically and psychologically, we are more motivated to avoid pain than to seek pleasure. Why wouldn’t we use this natural tendency to our advantage? Staying away from what you don’t want is more powerful than chasing what you do want.
If You’re Comfortable in the Fire
There are some people who become so comfortable with the discomfort of sitting in the fire that it doesn’t spur them to resolve. There’s a lot more to be said on this, but if that’s you, then you need to harness one of the other sources of resolve. That’s for another time.
In The Ritual Revolution I teach in depth about how to source and strengthen your resolve and help you find your unique resolve blueprint.