Have you ever gotten so wrapped up in a task that you failed to notice that the room got dark?
I can get so wrapped up in working on a project that I don’t move for hours. It’s not uncommon that the bright room I started in becomes dark as the sun fades from the sky, without my noticing. In the ADHD world, this is called hyperfocus mode.
When I was young, I’d get absorbed in reading. My mom would come into the room and ask why I was reading in the dark. Until she turned on the light, I didn’t notice I was sitting in the dark.
In those cases, the light was a welcome respite.
Other times, I consciously choose to sit in a dark room. Maybe I want to go inward and contemplate issues on my mind. Maybe I want to rest. There are valid reasons to sit in a dark room. In those situations, someone turning on a light is an unwelcome intrusion into my sacred space.
If you’re called to a mission to end suffering and make things better for people, whether as a healer, coach, therapist, teacher, a real estate agent, or other form of service — all of which fit into the broad category of “light-worker” — it’s easy to fall into the trap of believing that everyone who is sitting in darkness wants the light turned on.
One of my three words for this year is Illuminate. Part of my daily contemplation of how I am being called to illuminate the darkness for myself and others is reminding myself that not everyone wants illumination.
When you want to bring enlightenment to the world, this is a hard lesson to learn.
Some people don’t realize they are sitting in the dark. Some want to sit in the dark. Some need to sit in the dark, even if they don’t want to. (More on them another time.)
As a light worker, it’s not your job to illuminate the world for everyone who is sitting in the dark. Your job is to help those who are seeking the light.
There are more than enough people craving the light. They are waiting for you. And they value your light.
Save your magic for them and let the others go.