Sometimes in life we reach a door to some opportunity. Behind the door is all we have envisioned for ourselves, the promise of our potential, the answer to our prayers.
We push the door to open it, and nothing happens. The door won’t open.
We search for all the reasons why the door is stuck. We look for the obstacles that are in the way so we can remove them.
The stories from our past that explain why we can’t open the door. Our limiting beliefs. Our mindsets. The language we use.
We explore our fears of what’s on the other side of the door, or who we have to become to open the door. Fears about what will happen once we’re in the room.
Perhaps we need more strength or different skills to open the door. So we go off in search of the program that will teach us what we need to know to open the door. We practice. We work the muscles we need to build strength.
With each approach, we return to the door and push harder. We deepen in our self-love and self-compassion. We commit to self-care.
We do All. The. Things.
The outer work and the inner work. And still, the door doesn’t open.
We may eventually accept that this stuck door must be a sign from the universe: this door is broken. We need to look for another way in.
Or, perhaps it’s a sign that we aren’t meant to go into this particular room. There must be a different room meant for us. So we go in search of that room. We set new destinations and travel new paths, in search of the door that will open.
But what if the door to that first room wasn’t locked? What if that was the door?
In our efforts to remove the obstacles, to catalyze the fears, to become the person we need to be to open the door, we weigh ourselves down with more work. We push harder and harder.
What if we don’t have to push so hard? What if we didn’t have to push at all?
The work we do in service of our outcome to push the door open is not wasted. There are always muscles to develop, new skills to acquire, fears to embrace and catalyze, stories from our past to rewrite, limiting beliefs and blind spots to illuminate.
This is the work of becoming who we already are. It’s important work.
Sometimes we can get so caught up looking for what’s in the way and what we need to improve, that we miss seeing where we are. When we are always striving to step into what’s next, we miss the beauty of what’s now.
While we are busy looking for the magic key to unlock the door, and the signs directing us to our future, we miss the most obvious sign of all.
The door says “PULL.”